Patricia O’Gorman, PhD
I was in my local health food store when I saw a neighbor and we began chatting. When asked what I was up to I told her of my recent blog on giving up a girly thought for lent—you remember the one where I suggested you give up one girly thought for lent, yes just one, even if you’re not observant, even if you’re not Christian, all with the understanding that you can return to this form of self-sabotage after Easter if you still want to do this to yourself (http://shar.es/1gX00k).
She began laughing and told me of a story of a younger cousin with a wicked sense of humor. We’ll call her Colleen. When she was asked what she was giving up for lent by her Episcopal priest, she said SEX. He evidently turned pale and began shaking. Colleen was only 14 and lived in boarding school in a rural part of Canada. She was quickly isolated from the other girls, questioned repeatedly—they needed to know who the boy was—and then not believed when she said she was just kidding. By the way, she has become a successful comedy writer – noted for her sense of humor and her timing.
It’s still not too late for you. Just try stopping one of those girly thoughts that tell you:
- You’re too smart
- Too fat
- Too aggressive, or
- It’s all your fault that….
Think of it just like a science experiment you did in high school. You do something and see what happens. You can do this within yourself—stop thinking one girly thought and see what happens when you make space in you by stopping one particular way you are distracting yourself, beating yourself up, keeping yourself down – yes stopping just one girly thought can make a big difference in how you feel about yourself, and how much energy you have to do what it is you’d like to accomplish.
Try it and let me know…
You’ll find more ideas for getting rid of your negative self-talk in my latest book, The Girly Thoughts 10-Day Detox Plan: The Resilient Woman’s Guide to Saying NO to Negative Self-Talk and YES to Personal Power