She couldn’t satisfy her husband.
-Trump speaking about Hillary
By Patricia O’Gorman, PhD
A presidential hopeful challenges his possible rival about her sexual desirability and blames her for her husband’s affairs.
Is this message of a woman’s responsibility for something familiar to you? Do you stifle your infuriation because this sounds right?
Where’s your outrage?
Why You Don’t Feel Angry
You are marketed ongoing messages about your desirability. These messages suggests you should be measured by how you act and look . . . and you internalize these messages and then use to judge yourself and other women.
I’ve named this toxic internalization girly thoughts. Why name this internal trash talk so common to women? Because once you can name something, you have control over it.
Having a name means you can easily identify when you are doing something and can then stop yourself from listening, and acting upon, your toxic girly thoughts.
But this isn’t a free ride. There are consequences for not believing your toxic girly thoughts. You could be seen as brash, even unlikeable if you don’t “play the game,” or thought of as “yelling” when you clearly state your point of view, particularly when you disagree with the others around you.
Stop Listening to Your Toxic Girly Thoughts
Are you up for a challenge?
This can be a fun exercise, especially in this year of presidential campaigning.
- Identify the toxic girly thoughts that campaigners are using to put women in general and women candidates in their place.
- Share what you are hearing with your friends, family, and co-workers.
- Call candidates out on statements that reinforce toxic girly thoughts, those messages that are negative and harmful to women.
No, you don’t have to write a letter, but it’s an option. You can use:
- Other social media platforms
Yes, you’ll get blowback, you may even be trolled on Twitter, but so what? That’s a sure sign your comments are reaching others and they are hearing you say NO to toxic girly thoughts.
And please link me to any of your comments. We can follow each other on Twitter. I will retweet your outrage and share your thoughts on Facebook.
Now repeat after me: Yes, I will!
You’ll find more ideas for getting rid of your negative self-talk in my two latest books, The Girly Thoughts 10-Day Detox Plan: The Resilient Woman’s Guide to Saying NO to Negative Self-Talk and YES to Personal Power and The Resilient Woman: Mastering The 7 Steps to Personal Power.